My Child is a Popsicle: Handling After-School Meltdowns

My Child is a Popsicle: Handling After-School Meltdowns

Does your child come home from school and fall apart? Tears, screaming, kicking, attitude, pushback, the works? If children were popsicles, every September my house would have orange sticky popsicle juice everywhere because it’s... Back-to-School Meltdown Month! If you have an after-school meltdown-prone child, you are probably nodding your head. Back-to-School starts out so full of anticipation and excitement, shortly replaced by the reality of getting up before it’s light, rushing to get out the door, and facing a long day of intense brain activity and social challenges while trying to hold it together so you don’t spazz out in front of your peers, except sometimes you do. And then someone makes fun of your sneakers and you have no idea what’s going on in math and horror of horrors, you didn’t get to the bathroom on time and had to go to the nurse for a change of clothes. Is it any wonder that this child gets to the safety of home and lets it all out in very loud, physical way? Today’s post is going to be both practical and deep, with lots of wisdom from our team of Moms of Melters to help you get through Meltdown Month and

How Does Mommy Medicine Work?

Mommy Answers

Providing Mommy Answers! So, I definitely have some OCD tendencies. And this in addition to being very, very Type A. Mix these two ingredients with being a new mom & well… let’s just say with every single new mom question I faced, I grit my teeth, dug in my heels a little farther and searched fervently for the answer. Looking back now, I see I was a bit animal in my behavior and certainly fear-driven. But, as new moms we simply have so many questions and we are hunting for oodles of answers. Why is my baby crying? Why is he not sleeping? What is that red thing on her forehead? Oh God, is she coughing or dying? Initially, I refused to give my firstborn any vaccines, as I had heard so many theories flying about. Her first 6 months I read countless books and websites...trying to make sense of everything. Do I vaccinate? If so, at what pace do I vaccinate my child? Do I give my child all of the vaccines or do I pick and choose? In the end, because of our frequent travel to Third World countries, we chose to do most of the vaccines but at a

How Do I Make Chores a Part of Our Family Life?

how do I get my kids to do chores?

How Do I Make Chores a Part of Our Family Life? Chores are an important part of raising responsible, independent children. It’s good for them the way vegetables are good for them- they may not like them but they’ve got to eat them to grow healthy and strong. And, just like getting them to eat vegetables, it can be a royal pain to get them to actually do their chores. The truth is, you can and should start your kids helping with chores at around age three, but it’s unlikely that you are going to feel like it’s actually easing your chore load for at least four or five years. It’s going to take patience on your part, mom and dad! They need supervision, help, and your willingness to let a few crumbs go unswept (attention, perfectionists, I’m talking to you). Decide what you want “help” with and what you don’t.  This may boil down to what you can stand to let be done imperfectly and what you feel is absolutely essential to have spotless. Children do not have your eyes, trained over many years, to see every dust bunny, every water mark on the faucet or every speck of toothpaste on

What is Mommy Medicine?

What is Mommy Medicine?

One night a few years ago...when I was having a rare and wonderfully deep sleep, I had a vivid dream. In my dream I was Mary Poppins. I wore the hat, carried that fantastic magic purse and was strolling along using the umbrella as a walking stick. Suddenly, I--or me as Mary Poppins--found herself signing up to study Pediatric Medicine online. I woke up with a jolt and sat up in bed, horrified. You see, dreams will sometimes mean something to me. I find God will use dreams to direct me, share thoughts, or reveal my emotions to me. In fact, a few years before I had prayed that God would start speaking to me in dreams. And He had. Now I was petrified. Here I was with three young children. Had I missed my calling? Was I supposed to become a pediatrician? How could I have missed this? How would I accomplish this? There was simply NO way. It was 4am and I was wide awake, my heart racing. I just could not wrap my heart around the "how" of this. How would I quit what I was doing and spend 4 years in Medical School? When I was

Expectations: How To Communicate Your Expectations When it Comes to Discipline?

how do i communicate my expectations when it comes to discipline?

"Mom, you didn't tell me that. I didn't know I wasn't supposed to..." How many times have we heard our kids utter these words?  I find it quite challenging to communicate clearly with my school-aged children who seem to have selective hearing when it comes to my instructions and behavioral expectations. After much struggle, I have come up with three bullet points for my children. Three simple expectations. Three principles. Three family rules to follow. It isn't the end-all be-all. However...after drilling these three points home year in and year out...we are beginning to make some progress. Yes, I did say...just beginning. Parenting is, after all...the hardest job in the world. 1) Be kind. When my nine-year old is falling apart because I am always controlling her, I quietly remind her that the reason she does not have the privilege of watching a show tonight is that she slapped her five-year-old sister hard across the back -- leaving a red, hand-shaped mark.  In our family, we are kind. If her Kindergarten-aged, very-likely-to-annoy younger sibling bothers her, she needs to try to work it out first. Then, she can come seek my help. Being unkind is not an option in our family. Kindness is

What Will Get My Kid To Stop Begging?


Here are a few brilliant phrases & strategies to use when your child just won’t stop asking: Images used under creative commons license – commercial use (2/3/2016) beccafawley (Flickr)

Bedtime Tips: How Do I Survive The Bedtime Routine With Multiple Children?

bedtime tips

Putting your children to bed can be one of the most rewarding or infuriating parts of your day. If all goes well, you come downstairs with a smile on your face and gratefulness in your heart for these adorable munchkins. On the other hand, if all hell breaks loose during your bedtime routine, you collapse on the sofa exhausted and questioning what you were ever thinking having more than one child. When you have one sweet little baby, no one ever sits you down and tells you that adding one more child can feel like five. Or adding two can feel like ten. Add to this dynamic a tired mom, a worn-out dad, a sleepy baby, and a grumpy big sister...and you have the recipe for disaster. We have our share of bedtime battle scars and have learned a few tricks that have helped us survive. Here are a few bedtime tips that have worked well: 1) Stagger Bedtimes. If you attempt to put your young children to bed at the same time, they may well keep each other awake! Not always. But, often. One way to avoid your 6-year-old keeping your 4-year-old from falling asleep because he is singing to himself, is

What Do I Do With My Strong-Willed Child?

How do i deal with my strong-willed child even when I am looking my mind?

  Have you ever looked at your child and seen yourself in the mirror? My husband lovingly calls my 6-year-old a "mini-mommy". She looks like me, talks like me and doesn't take no for an answer....just like her mom. The problem with this is that she simply doesn't always do what we want her to do and she has far too many opinions for her own good. It is very inconvenient for us, the parents. And infuriating at times. Strong-willed children are a handful, to say the least. is clear to me, that certain children are definitely more strong-willed. My first-born may not want to eat the food I have prepared for dinner, but if I tell her, "Honey, I worked hard on this dinner. Do your best and eat it, " she will go ahead and eat. My second-born is another story altogether. If I tell her her she needs to go ahead and eat it, she looks at me and says, "No, mom. I am not going to eat it." Done. She has made up her mind. If I am tucking my third-born in and she is annoyed with the covers, I can usually adjust them and smooth them out

How Do I Resolve a Sibling Rivalry?

How do I resolve a sibling rivalry?

Sugar and spice and all that’s nice, that’s what little girls are made of. What are little boys made of? Spiders, snakes, and puppy dog tails! We are all familiar with that rhyme, yet as kids get older, this manifests itself into constant hitting, touching, tripping, and shoving. How does one get a grasp on sanity when energy levels are high and the kids don't want to leave one another alone? It can be exhausting listening to the back and forth banter, in addition to the physical aspects of kids not being able to leave one another alone. If you've reached your breaking point, I've put together a few ideas on how to get a grasp on sibling rivalry. During a calm moment, explain the new rule(s) to children, so that they are well aware of the consequences to come. Remind them that their actions cause the whole house to be affected, whether they are positive or negative. Ex: when you are kind to your brother, he in turn is not agitated and will probably be more kind to you. Here are some ways to try to reduce sibling rivalry: 1. The instigator owes the child on the receiving end 5 min

My 2-Year-Old is Throwing Terrible Toddler Tantrums. What Do I Do?

what to do when your child is having a temper trantrum? What to do when your child is in full on tantrum mode?

So you've hit the terrible twos. Suddenly your sweet, innocent baby is morphing into a mean dictator. It seems so harshly put...but for most of us who have raised a few kids, we are not surprised when this sweet angel turns demon. It can be ugly. In my house, I have learned a few tricks that can turn that toddler's frown upside down. It takes work and stick-to-iveness, but you will be rewarded! Here is one simple solution I use that works quite well. It comes in three simple steps. How to combat a Tantrum: 1) Communicate with empathy. (Find out more about this principle with Love and Logic. 2) Explain the problem and the consequence clearly. 3) Always act consistently with what you communicate 4) Repeat Example 1: Here is an example. Baby sees that older brother has a cookie she wants. She proceeds to grab the cookie. When big brother tries to take the cookie back, baby slaps big brother in the face and yells,"No! My cookie!" Here is the Mama solution. "Oh, sweetie (in a very soft and gentle tone)...we don't take cookies from big brother. And we don't hit. No, thank you. I am going to put you in the bathroom all by yourself