My Child is a Popsicle: Handling After-School Meltdowns

My Child is a Popsicle: Handling After-School Meltdowns

Does your child come home from school and fall apart? Tears, screaming, kicking, attitude, pushback, the works? If children were popsicles, every September my house would have orange sticky popsicle juice everywhere because it’s... Back-to-School Meltdown Month! If you have an after-school meltdown-prone child, you are probably nodding your head. Back-to-School starts out so full of anticipation and excitement, shortly replaced by the reality of getting up before it’s light, rushing to get out the door, and facing a long day of intense brain activity and social challenges while trying to hold it together so you don’t spazz out in front of your peers, except sometimes you do. And then someone makes fun of your sneakers and you have no idea what’s going on in math and horror of horrors, you didn’t get to the bathroom on time and had to go to the nurse for a change of clothes. Is it any wonder that this child gets to the safety of home and lets it all out in very loud, physical way? Today’s post is going to be both practical and deep, with lots of wisdom from our team of Moms of Melters to help you get through Meltdown Month and

A Long and Rocky Road: How do I deal with Pregnancy Loss?

How do I deal with pregnancy loss? How do I deal with a miscarriage? From a mother who walked in your shoes

How do I deal with Pregnancy Loss? First know, You are Not Alone A friend of mine just had a first-trimester miscarriage and is grieving deeply. Another friend just shared with me how several years ago she lost her third baby at 24 weeks. Many, many of my friends and women in my family have suffered pregnancy loss; at this point, I find it more unusual to meet women who haven’t. My Personal Story Several years ago I lost twins right at the end of the first trimester, just before we were about to share our excitement with the world.  Then I had another very early first trimester miscarriage after the birth of our most recent little boy. Losing the twins was the hardest, but even losing a baby I’d only known about for a few days was wrenching. Miscarriage is devastating. I plunged into a depression that lasted months. I felt like my body was a vessel of tears that just kept spilling over. I cried every day, and anything and everything set me off. I was haunted by the mental image of an ultrasound screen with no heartbeats. My body was a mess trying to reorganize itself and the changing hormones gave me

How Does Mommy Medicine Work?

Mommy Answers

Providing Mommy Answers! So, I definitely have some OCD tendencies. And this in addition to being very, very Type A. Mix these two ingredients with being a new mom & well… let’s just say with every single new mom question I faced, I grit my teeth, dug in my heels a little farther and searched fervently for the answer. Looking back now, I see I was a bit animal in my behavior and certainly fear-driven. But, as new moms we simply have so many questions and we are hunting for oodles of answers. Why is my baby crying? Why is he not sleeping? What is that red thing on her forehead? Oh God, is she coughing or dying? Initially, I refused to give my firstborn any vaccines, as I had heard so many theories flying about. Her first 6 months I read countless books and websites...trying to make sense of everything. Do I vaccinate? If so, at what pace do I vaccinate my child? Do I give my child all of the vaccines or do I pick and choose? In the end, because of our frequent travel to Third World countries, we chose to do most of the vaccines but at a

Preparing for Your Postpartum Body: Incontinence, Constipation & More Fun

preparing for your postpartum body incontinence, constipation, and more

How to Prepare for Your Postpartum Body A friend was telling me about how a few months after she gave birth, she decided it was time to start an exercise routine and get fit again. She took her jump rope, went outside to do a little cardio, and was astonished to find that she immediately peed all over her shorts. I had this exact same experience when my first young toddler was invited to a party at Big Wild Bounce Crazy-Land and I decided to join him in some bouncing. Needless to say, I was embarrassed, and the worst part was I didn’t have anything to change into. I wasn’t really thinking before I left the house  “oh, I might wet my pants today, better throw another pair of jeans into my bag!” Today’s article is addressed to you moms pregnant with your first baby, from your sisters who have gone before, with some of the juicy details on the things you might not expect from your postpartum body. Those Sad Pelvic Floor Muscles: Incontinence! It’s not really a surprise that incontinence is a very common issue for moms. Obviously a LOT of stretching had to happen for a baby to come through the

Real Mom Talk: The Scoop on Poop

baby constipation tips and tricks

Real Mom Talk: The Scoop on Poop Baby Constipation Tips and Tricks for Little Ones I don’t think I ever used the word “poop” more than a few times a year before I had kids. Then suddenly I had babies and found myself telling my husband about the day’s poop as soon as he walked in the door at night. While my babies never suffered much with constipation, I’m rather familiar with constipation in the slightly older human form, having carried a screaming child clutching their tummy to get abdominal-rays at the ER and to a whole series of doctor’s appointments to get the problem cleared up. Turns out some mom had been letting her offspring eat too much refined junk food and not enough fiber. Yes, even I, your crunchy organic veggie-loving blogger, had given into the endless demands for things made with white flour. This week we got an inquiry from a mom about a new product on the market from Wellements® called “BabyMove.” She wanted to know if we’ve ever tried it and if we had any other tips about handling constipation in babies. I’m happy to say that we have on our team a pediatrician (Dr. Auxier of Gilbert

How can I get my baby to sleep without being held?

How do I get my Baby to Sleep without being held?

How can I get my baby to sleep without being held? Today I am going to give you a put-your-baby-to-sleep-without-nursing-and-not-attached-to-you idea. I didn't figure this one out until my third, and I've only tried it on one child, so you can take it with however many grains of salt that's worth. While I actually love lying down with my babies and nursing them to sleep, there are times when this is not convenient and I need a solution that doesn’t involve a thirty minute process ending with me delicately easing myself up from the bed like a ninja, hoping that they don’t wake up and foil all my plans! I can't handle "sleep training" of the variety where you put them in the crib, leave, and just let them cry till they conk out. Some people can. Not me. I like a gentle and quiet approach. I came up with this strategy when my youngest was newly home from the hospital and it worked pretty well for us throughout his infancy. After being sure baby was fed, changed, comfy, etc, I gave him his ten thousand kisses and put him down in his crib. Then I quietly slipped out and ran over to

How Do I Turn my Foot-Dragging Child into a Real Hiker?

hiking with kids

When I was three years old, my parents took me on a camping trip in the mountains. We have lots of great memories from that trip: the yellow jackets swarming us while we tried to have pancakes for breakfast, hanging food from trees to keep them out of the reach of bears, and of course, me throwing up in the rental car from traveling around all those mountain curves on the way to the campsite. But the most legendary story of all is how I hiked seven miles on my own two feet and earned the nickname “Strong Legs.” We were a hiking family. That’s what we did on our weekends and vacations. I learned to be comfortable in and love the great outdoors. That’s still where I would rather be than anywhere else. But as for the hiking seven miles when I was three: I must have been some kind of hiking prodigy. Because none of my children, at age three, showed the slightest inclination to attempt anything like that. In fact, I have found that most three, four, and even ten or twelve-year-olds can spend an entire day running around the backyard but then acquire a melting leg disease

I’m going back to work and not pumping enough milk. Help!

not producing enough milk and I'm going back to work

I'm going back to work and not pumping enough milk. Help! Recently, Mommy Medicine received a question from a new mama going back to work and trying to pump enough breast milk to keep her wee one full and happy: “I'm at about a 5 oz. pumping deficit each day. Any recommendations on supplementing with formula? What do you use? When do you give it to them?” Oh, how we can relate to this frustration. It's no fun to sit holding that undignified pump sucking on us for fifteen minutes only to see less and less drops of milk going down into the bottle. We reached out to Mommy Medicine's wonderful doctor on call, Dr. Auxier of Gilbert Pediatrics in Gilbert, Arizona. We think he had some great and creative suggestions. Make sure you are staying well hydrated! Find a place at work where you can relax. Turn the lights off and put your feet up. Use a double electric pump- it empties you out a lot faster. Make a recording of your baby's “I'm hungry!” cry and listen to it as you begin to pump. Also record your baby's latching, sucking, and drinking sounds and listen to them while you are pumping.

How Do I Make Chores a Part of Our Family Life?

how do I get my kids to do chores?

How Do I Make Chores a Part of Our Family Life? Chores are an important part of raising responsible, independent children. It’s good for them the way vegetables are good for them- they may not like them but they’ve got to eat them to grow healthy and strong. And, just like getting them to eat vegetables, it can be a royal pain to get them to actually do their chores. The truth is, you can and should start your kids helping with chores at around age three, but it’s unlikely that you are going to feel like it’s actually easing your chore load for at least four or five years. It’s going to take patience on your part, mom and dad! They need supervision, help, and your willingness to let a few crumbs go unswept (attention, perfectionists, I’m talking to you). Decide what you want “help” with and what you don’t.  This may boil down to what you can stand to let be done imperfectly and what you feel is absolutely essential to have spotless. Children do not have your eyes, trained over many years, to see every dust bunny, every water mark on the faucet or every speck of toothpaste on

How Do I Get my Toddler or Preschooler to Stay in Their Room Past 5 am?

How do I get my toddler to stay in their room so I can sleep?

How Do I Get my Toddler to Stay in Their Room Past 5 am? 5:30 am: The windows are dark and you’re staring into space with a cup of coffee in your hand while your child eats their bowl of cereal, wondering how it came to this. There was a time when you never got up until at least half an hour after sunrise. Why, oh why, you ask yourself, did I stay up till 11 last night? I should have gone to bed at 9! Or maybe 8! We all want to have some adult time to ourselves, and it’s necessary to being a good parent. Going to bed at 8 pm isn’t really an option. We need those precious evening hours to reconnect with our spouse, binge on Netflix, and enjoy that pint of chocolate fudge brownie ice cream we’ve been hoarding behind the frozen peas. I hope I can give you a practical idea today on how to put a stop to those cold, dark mornings. You may have noticed that toddlers and preschoolers don’t really understand clocks. Enter the light-timer! Those little gadgets you use to turn your lights on and off at set times while you are on vacation

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